So, I watch too much tv these days, even though I decided to get rid of cable. But, that doesn’t stop me from the mundane, the major channels and Netflix and Amazon, and of course, a lot of commercials now. The Farmer’s Only commercial really bugs the crap out of me. No wonder these farmers have been so lonely, they hang out with irritating horses. Most of their commercials make no sense, but their tag line is pretty good.
Then there is America’s Got Talent. If I have to watch the camera flash on Tyra Banks making faces while the talent is doing their stuff, I think I will puke. I don’t watch the show for her nor for the mouth covering expressions of the audience or judges. I want to see the talent and the camera is continuously going to meaningless shots of Tyra with some asinine expression. And, then there is the constant din of the audience yelling and clapping and screaming after someone hits a high note or after 5 seconds on the stage. Like they want it to be all about them. They just have no manners and it’s often hard to hear the talent. Then there is Mel B. who seems to have to say what the talent is doing. Obviously, she can’t figure it out or thinks we need her ongoing diatribe to understand what is happening. Okay enough about them.
Now, let’s move on to the bastardization of the English language by so called college graduates. My most irritating phrase and one that seems to have been gaining acceptance is “I had went”. AYAYAYAYA. This out of the mouths of supposedly educated people. I even heard Derrick Hough say it on World of Dance and another announcer say it on a local news station. Who is teaching English in schools these days?? For those of you who think this is proper English, IT ISN’T. ‘I went’or ‘I had gone’ are permissible. That’s it. Not ‘I had went.’ Makes my skin crawl. It should make yours crawl too.
Then there is the inability of people to email in English or text in English. The grammar is atrocious. Correct spelling is non-existent. And, if you rely on spellcheck, here’s a news flash, you have to know how to spell first. Otherwise, you won’t know the difference between ‘there, their, or they’re.’ It seems that those who write the programs for this don’t know how to spell nor know proper grammar either.
Everyone is into .America First these days. But, it doesn’t seem that we are first when it comes to speaking or writing grammatically or clearly. If you want to hear proper English spoken, you have to leave this country and go to India, or Africa and some parts of England. Americans are now getting a second class education. Teachers speak poor English and that is what students pick up. It is the foundation for critical thinking and not sounding like a moron. It helps you get a better paying job and more respect.
For those of you who are reading this, demand that people and your family members speak proper English. And, if you don’t know, learn. BTW, they will also behave better. Sloppy speech leads to careless actions. You might notice those who speak well, usually do a lot better and are more highly though of.
Of course, there are those who speak well and are still idiots and often act unethically. Don’t be like them. Speak well, act well and ethically. You will find you think better of yourself and improve your own self esteem without harming or demeaning others.
There are plenty of things to blame for the decline of manners and grammar. Acceptance of improper English in schools. Minimizing reading and correct spelling, saying it’s the thought that counts. It’s more than that. I can’t understand what you mean if your language is so distorted. Your thoughts become incomprehensible. And, with social media, word count restrictions on everything, the inability of people to read more than just bullet points before they get bored, has contributed to abbreviated English, misspellings, confusing grammar and, as a therapist, I can assure you, people have more difficulty expressing their needs, feelings and goals, because their English is so poor.
Maybe you have your own pet peeves about things. Go ahead and let them out. It feels good to broadcast them, as long as you don’t become too insulting and obnoxious. And, if you find yourself too frustrated over it all, as I do sometimes, breathe and try to show some compassion for those less fortunate than you. Well, I had better went now……